Over the years I have helped many people to rebuild their relationships, many when they have been on  the verge of splitting up.

I have also helped to bring couples together again after a seperation.

I offer one to one sessions with both partners in  complete confidence.


Are you sick of argueing?
Is your home becoming a battleground?
Is your partner becoming unwilling to discuss problems with you?

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When people congratulate a couple for remaining together for decades and express admiration or surprise, this shouldn’t imply that both partners are entirely happy. When cracks begin to appear in a relationship, as they so often do for any normal couple, if one partner buries their head in the sand or simply doesn’t notice , the other partner begins to feel abandoned. One partner may be so absorbed in their work or hobbies that they sidetrack how the other person feels, whether consciously or not.
All relationships need bolstering every so often, especially when one partner seems unusually intolerant to everyday stress or seemly over reactive to playful comments which to an outsider may appear to be harmless gentle teasing.
What should a caring partner do if a sudden outburst from a normally tolerant person reveals that something might be amiss?
The best thing to do would be to simply ask “What’s wrong?”
They should strive to allow their partner to express their feelings without looking for hidden meanings or apportioning blame upon themselves. A partner who is keeping a watch for any criticism of themselves is not really listening in a constructive and helpful way. This will be perceived as self protection and is a one sided solution which is only effective as a temporary measure, sparing the partner who may not have sufficient communication skills at the time. If the partner listens in a way as to not internalize themselves as being the cause of problem or takes care not to offer unwanted advice, then a full blown argument can be avoided and constructive suggestions can often bring the relationship back into positive alignment. So often a partner simply wants to express frustration without necessarily wanting the other party to offer an immediate answer or solution. Life throws up all sorts of outside problems which can so often be invisible to the partner who assumes that everything is normal.
By avoiding the issue or not even asking how their partner is feeling, even though it appears to keep the peace on the surface, this is often because that person fears the conversation might develop into a row, this is sparing the questioner who presumes impeding attack, but is not respecting the other partner and this often makes things worse. The partner feels unwanted and isolated and in turn any attempt at normal sexual relations are considerably impaired especially if the aggrieved partner is unable to express what is really on their minds.
The partner who approaches for sex believing that sexual attention alone will make the other person feel wanted, without any emotional support will often be turned away , the refusing partner irritated by this kind of attention as appearing only for the relief of the non-communicating partners own needs.
This scenario often spells the death of a marriage, all because of the lack of communication.
In fact by not allowing a person the freedom and respect by expressing their true feelings is far worse than a trying to avoid a conflict. Sometimes conflict is preferable to nothing at all. Spring cleaning is tiresome and hard work but every relationship would benefit from a little blowing away of the cobweb s now and again, however difficult is appears at first when embarking on the process.
Sadly many couples would rather pay more consideration to elderly relatives or friends and then wonder when the relationship fades into oblivion “what went wrong?”
Spare a few moments to appreciate the person you chose to spend your life with, as in the words of a song
“You always hurt the one you love, the one you shouldn’t hurt at all”